Doctor + MBA = Business man

This is a story about my visit to a one of the chain of dental clinics under a single brand. Service with a smile is their way to serve. As soon as I entered all I felt was the feeling of goodness and safety. Beautiful men and women handling patients with a smile and care of a friend, I was starting to believe it was real. After minutes of getting used to that good feeling they called me into the dental room, from where i saw small group of young dentist running around to attend patience and collecting reports. From the group one fine gentle man came in to attend to me. he just looked around and started to examine me and after a few seconds ordered an X-ray. Well, he gave a good enough reason that he needed to be sure; I thought he is looking after me cool. Next showed the portrait of my imperfect teeth in his new flashy comp and asked me with a smile to take a seat near him. Wow, that was my longest 5 mins for me on that day. He made me convinced that my mouth had to be taken apart and fixed all over again, well if it was over with that I would have been happy, I could simply say yes or no and go back to the table. But, he used all possible medical knowledge that which he had learnt to scare me to the core. All the feeling of goodness disappeared I almost felt I was about to lose all my teeth and be done. Finally, after doing all the talking about everything else, other than the problem for I have come, The one that was really bothering me after that time was how to get out without undergoing all the costly treatments he said he wants to do. When he finally started the drilling process to fill the gap, the sense of security was no longer there. I saw a business man trying to drill my teeth to find some money.

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After the filling was done and after making me to bite on cotton, He simply went to his comp and told me to get up as it is over and go home (only after going home i found the filling is not done properly and was coming out). The huge bill on the way out was not very comforting and all the happy feeling i thought i had was no more with me. After reaching home the first thing I told was “wow, I made it”. Then I was left wondering why I was so scared and left me thinking back.  It only reminded me of the old days when doctors used to ask about you to gain trust and make you feel comfortable and when they came close to us it made us feel better. They never showed the worst side of us to the core, as we are all imperfect and when told of all our imperfection on a single visit which was uncalled for even though I was going to visit him again as my treatment required. I realized that a doctor who is propelled by a business behind him is a business man more than a doctor, I saw a sales man rather than a doctor and the only thing my heart was telling me is to run from there alive.  On the mad rush to be a doctor I just pray that they think for a second about the things that they are handling is alive and even if they want to make money at least with little sensitivity.

LEARNING FROM A CRYING BABY

                         A small baby is the cutest little thing that is born into this world fresh and clear in its mind and thought. Not shy to complain and to cry, it reacts to the smallest signs of harm. The cute they may seem but they possess the strongest beacon for danger (cry with a strongest voice). They have to do that to show you something is wrong to understand that they are in trouble and they need help. The instinct of million years of evolution has not spared us as we age; we have to run to attend the calling. Cutest little helpless child needs to do it and as adults we sometimes have to do it our self. In India we constantly find our self in such situations and we fail to show the displeasure, out of sense of decency or feeling of not to hurt others. But, when we stop complaining to people who make things worse for us, it’s the best worst thing that we can do. Though crying in front of the public is not the best way for an adult, we have developed our own Beacons like anger and questioning the methods in which a person does things. Only when we display such indicators, will they know that they have to change. But, if they don’t mind one person, if everyone starts complaining it becomes wrong, then they will change on their own. The change of method is necessary though screaming like a kid is an option and people do, do that. It proves little point other than that we are crazy.

                                    Why this blog you might ask in the list of meaningless blogs that I have wrote and kept, this does not figure. Since, we have forgotten to complain. We have forgotten to such an extent that the politicians think its ok to steal from us while we are suffering. They don’t know we suffer and how will they, when there is no complaint. The voice of the media as become the voice of people the voice of exaggerating media as become the thinkers of people or more guide books for people. We claim that we are intelligent than a child but, the smartness we had as a kid is actually lost while we were working hard to become smartJ. The wonder that we are ready for the world when we are born, but we choose the other way is really funny. So, start complaining with sense and thought, say no when you have to, say you are hurt when you are. Let them know, if they still not care then its time you stop caring for what they say or do and not to forget learn from a crying baby. 

HOW HELPING OTHERS HELPS US

Life is a book full of mysteries and you cannot figure out all of it on your own. It’s the smallest things that helps us to learn in life, if carefully observed with the eye of an eagle its possible to notice. Though simple tools that guides and benefits us are hard to find, they do exist. One such small tool is "helping". When someone approaches us for help, its always wise to consider the pros and cons of helping them. But,  the most extraordinary things happen only when we  never think before, doing good to others.

Except for things like

1) Allowing the strangers to use your credit card.(never done this)

2) Giving away your last hundred to a beggar, when other beggars are watching. (Do this if you want to become a star for a moment :))

Though there is humor to helping people in India and sometimes hardship, we can not always get the best out of it. It’s more like paying to some schools, thinking that we are actually going to learn something useful other than the process of memorizing. 

 Anyways, It took a while for me to realize that in any case, helping is never a one way process and whatever you do will come back to you. They are very small that some time we don’t even notice them. It may be as simple as looking for a job for your friend and finding a better alternative for yourself, in the process or on the process of giving the beggar some change we discover that we don’t have enough cash for purchase or trying to book tickets for a friend and understanding the process comes in handy when you need them. But, even the smallest benefit disappears when we help with expectations. The benefit do not show at the same time or moment, careful observance is needed to know the change within and around.  .